Maunderings of a Future Pastor's Wife

Most people don't realize all that happens around a man called to God's work. It's one thing when a single man is called and eventually meets God's match for him while he's on his path. But what about the couple that is called after that match is made?

I married my husband November 11th, 2011. We barely were holding on to our faith, and the thought he might be called to be a Pastor had never crossed my mind in the slightest.

This blog is mostly about my point of view. As the uncalled party, my calling is to be the wife, mother, and God loving woman by his side.

This is my story. There will be random ramblings and precious moments shared - with everything in between.

Mar 7, 2014 7:32am

Mom Moment

  • R: Mom, someday I want to be rich!
  • Me: Ok...why?
  • R: So that I can send missionaries to places that don't know about God.
  • Me: Wow! I think that's a great idea.
  • R: Or I could just be one...
  • Me: (Thinking very hard 'PLEASE don't take my baby God!') That's a big responsibility. Talk to God about it when you're a little older. If that's what he's calling you to do, there's nothing better!
Feb 28, 2014 7:39am
I love that this brings attention to important stuff but I think it leaves out the depth.
What is a date? Define date. My children will not be allowed to go anywhere alone with a member of the opposite sex until at least 16. Really, why should they? Who is driving? Where are they going that they need alone time? Nothing good comes out of being alone at a young age.
However, if my 13 year old son asks if he can have a girl over to study, I’ll say sure. You can sit at the kitchen table while I cook. 
If my 14 year old daughter’s favorite band is in town, I’ll buy four tickets and take her and her “boyfriend” with her dad and I to the show.
I don’t think it’s a matter of dating vs. not dating. I think there’s more to it. How do you date appropriately. How should you be treated? What type of situations should you put yourself into, and what should you avoid? 
In the end, even a child raised correctly can make the wrong choice. But I think as parents, we need to focus on teaching them how to make the correct choices rather than attempting to remove their right to make them all together.
Just random thoughts. Responses? : ) 
-FPW

I love that this brings attention to important stuff but I think it leaves out the depth.

What is a date? Define date. My children will not be allowed to go anywhere alone with a member of the opposite sex until at least 16. Really, why should they? Who is driving? Where are they going that they need alone time? Nothing good comes out of being alone at a young age.

However, if my 13 year old son asks if he can have a girl over to study, I’ll say sure. You can sit at the kitchen table while I cook. 

If my 14 year old daughter’s favorite band is in town, I’ll buy four tickets and take her and her “boyfriend” with her dad and I to the show.

I don’t think it’s a matter of dating vs. not dating. I think there’s more to it. How do you date appropriately. How should you be treated? What type of situations should you put yourself into, and what should you avoid? 

In the end, even a child raised correctly can make the wrong choice. But I think as parents, we need to focus on teaching them how to make the correct choices rather than attempting to remove their right to make them all together.

Just random thoughts. Responses? : ) 

-FPW

Feb 28, 2014 7:21am

Fear of a Future Pastors Wife #A1

I have little patience for people who find comfort in the Bible, without actually reading or living it. 

"God’s always with you", "Cast your cares upon Him for He cares for you", "if God’s for you, who can stand against you?:"…..and on and on it goes.

Well guess what? God’s only with you if you let Him be. He does care for you (duh) but when you do things repeatedly to put yourself in a need for His protection and one day He doesn’t protect you don’t be surprised. After all, THAT is biblical too. The last one drives me bonkers…God can only stand with you if you stand with Him. That’s the arrangement of free will. 

So my fear is…one day, as a pastors wife, someone is going to come to me thinking they’ll hear words of encouragement, words that make them feel better…and I won’t have them. I’m not a good liar. But I also don’t want my bluntness to reflect badly on my husband. 

I have many fears…so this could become a long series. They will be posted not in order of importance, just in the order they come to my mind. 

-FPW

Feb 21, 2014 8:26am

Wow! It’s been a while.

I haven’t posted in over a year! I’m a completely different person in some ways. Thus, I’m going to be completely revamping my blog. Hang on for the ride! Or ya know…don’t. :P

EDIT: ALL POSTS PRIOR TO THIS ARE STILL ME. THEY ARE FROM FAR BEFORE, BUT WILL REMAIN PARTS OF WHO I AM. READ PRIOR WITH AN OPEN MIND, KNOWING THAT I WAS IN AND OUT OF FOLLOWING GOD A LOT. THANK YOU. :)

Sep 7, 2012 2:11pm

Being sick sucks…

I think the hardest part of being this sick is having to rely on other people. I’m such an independent person/mother and not having the energy to take care of my baby girl is killing me. BLAH!

~Katelyn~ 

Sep 4, 2012 10:33pm

Been a long long time.

I haven’t written in about a year and a half. That’s just crazy to me. So much has happened in my life since my last posts. I’m married to that amazing boyfriend I was talking about. We have a total of four lovely children, including our newest addition an almost 9 month old beautiful baby girl. Life is, overall, good stuff. Anyways, I plan on posting in here more regularly. But for now, over and out.

~Katelyn~ 

May 12, 2011 11:24pm

Wow…this hurts.

I had a friend pass away. We had cancer together when we were younger. He was one of the only ones who had the same type I did, but he had it way worse and for a lot longer than I did. He taught me how to take joy in little things…like with the gloves, how to play with them and how to make little puppets out of different stuff in the hospital rooms. He taught me how to smile even when I felt like crying (a lesson that’s failing me now, guess I’m not done learning that one). He was amazing. Although we haven’t been close in a long time, we’ve never lost contact and always kept tabs on each other.

A few months ago he told me he had cancer again. Technically, since it had been so long, it was considered a new case even though it was the same kind (if less time has passed, it would of just been considered coming out of remission). Last I heard, he was doing ok…fighting the way only Alex could. Then tonight I got a call that sometime in the middle of the night last night he passed away. Alex, what the hell. It’s not like you to give up like this! Come back and finish teaching me my lessons…I’ve got more to learn from you buddy. :’( 

The worst part is, as far as I know, he’s not saved. So I can’t even fool myself into believing I’ll see you again someday. I wish you hadn’t been so dense like that!

Emotions going crazy…For the first time my boyfriend let me down tonight. I needed him. I needed to cry on his shoulder. We had plans to hang out for a bit after I got off work and he canceled on me last minute…I told him I needed him the best way I could (which wasn’t very good I’m sure. I suck at that…) and he didn’t even reply…That hurts too.

So much pain…God…heal me like only you can!

~Katelyn~ 

Apr 9, 2011 7:11pm

So…

My boyfriend is still amazing. He treats me better than I deserve. We work through our failures together. I communicate with him! Which is huge for me, because I suck at that. He seems to sense exactly what I need, even when I’m no where near him.

The other day I felt like he needed a little space. He was kind of cranky, happens to everyone, lol. But I hadn’t talked to him all day and was starting to struggle with not texting him or anything. About the time I am going to give in and send him a text, he calls me for no other purpose than to tell me he loves me. <3 

He makes me talk to him when I need it, which is amazing because he can tell when I do. He listens and doesn’t get too upset when he can’t fix something. We pray together! And read the Bible. It’s amazing being able to feel God working in us both at the exact same time. That kind of connection is new to me.

I’m so in love with him, and I wake up and thank God for him every single day. The blessings my Lord gives me…I’m far from worthy of them. Giving me a man that loves Him first and me second is only one of the amazing things!  

I can’t wait to marry this man! 

~Katelyn~ 

Mar 25, 2011 5:54pm

Random thought about the future.

My amazing boyfriend has two beautiful little girls. I love them already. I love everything about the idea of being a step mom, even the over complicated things that I know will be hard to work through eventually. I love shopping for them too, it is awesome. They’re going to be staying at my place every other weekend (for reasons I can further explain if needed) starting tonight actually so I went and bought some cups and stuff for them. : ) It sounds silly but just picking out princess sippy cups made my day.

So this all got me thinking about the future and once we go to have children of our own. He wants a boy so bad. But I think I still want a little girl of my own. At the same time, I don’t really want five kids (even half time) and I want more than anything to make him happy and have a son.

I know when it comes down to it and I’m pregnant, the gender is 100% in God’s very capable hands. But thinking about which I’d want more is confusing me now…I guess I’ll just keep praying that God, someday, when and if you bless Pete and me with a baby that it be a healthy one. Boy or Girl…that’s all the really matters in the end to me. : )

~Katelyn~ 

Mar 16, 2011 10:08pm
My sweetheart speaks this language.&#160;: ) &lt;3&#160;!
~Katelyn~ 

My sweetheart speaks this language. : ) <3 !

~Katelyn~ 

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